Advice on Relationships

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Author:
Rinatta Paries

Want to improve your relationships, both romantic and otherwise? Want to grow in intimacy and closeness with your friends, family, co-workers, your special someone? Then include the following five easy steps into your interactions with those important to you.

1. Acknowledge the big and the little things.
People want to be seen. They want their actions, attitudes, feelings and aspirations to be noticed and acknowledged. Become a person who notices.

2. Give thanks and appreciation.
Thank others and they are more likely to do more of the same. Why? Because being thanked feels good. Tell them you appreciate it too.

3. Give 'just because' appreciation for who they are.
Make a list of what you admire about your partner or another person. Now share that list with them. You don't have to wait for a special occasion. Surprise that special person any time.

4. Take active interest.
Take a real interest in the things important to others. Listen to them and have a conversation about their hobbies, career or interests. Learn something new about the topic. It will make them feel understood and important.

5. Do special things just for them.
Find out what others like. Is it cards, flowers, a foot rub, a dinner out? You may not like or want these same things and that's ok. Do something or give something they like. Make them feel special.

See how many of these you can practice in one week with special people in your life and watch the intimacy in your relationships grow.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries
www.WhatItTakes.com

(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you the skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"

About the Author
Having coined the phrase "relationship coach," Master Certified Coach Rinatta Paries works with singles to help them attract their ideal relationship, and helps couples create more love and fulfillment in their existing relationships. Visit her web site at www.WhatItTakes.com or e-mail her at coach@WhatItTakes.com.

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