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Author:
JM Jackson

Stop Your Divorce and Save Your Marriage

How do you know if you are in a good relationship? Most of us know when we do a good job at work but most can’t tell whether they are in a good relationship or not.

Can you?

If you can’t you can learn to tell if you are in a good relationship. Better yet, you don’t have to wait and see over a long period of time if you and your partner will make each other happy or miserable down the road.

No matter what stage of the relationship you are in, you can take its pulse right now and be able to tell if it’s thriving, sick and needs help, or if it’s beyond help and needs to end.

First, understand that your feelings are not always a good barometer of whether you are in a good relationship or not. Realize that a good relationship is not always all about love.

Isn’t love important in a good relationship?

Well, it is and it isn’t. People get into relationships to feel good or because they are in love, or so they think. But in reality, every person gets into a relationship to meet a complex set of deeper personal needs such as understanding, companionship, approval and to give and receive love.

Many people are in love with each other and yet have a bad relationship. This is very common. People stay in bad relationships and marriages because they are lovesick over their partner yet unable to let go.

At the same time people in good relationships sometimes feel bad and think it’s the relationship making them feel bad. For example, who among us has not been with someone who seems deeply in love with us, and yet runs? It may be a good relationship the person is running from, but one that made him or her feel the fear of intimacy.

This is why your feelings are not always a good judge of whether you are in a good relationship or not. Take a look at the circumstances in which you find yourself in order to begin to figure out what is a good relationship and what is not.

About the Author :

J.M Jackson is a relationship counselor. His extensive website offers helpful information at Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage.


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