Advice on Relationships

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Kent Pinkerton

One thing to keep in mind when seeking relationship advice is that the relationship advice business is exactly that - a business, and a big business at that. It is important to be aware that there is a lot of bad advice available in the marketplace, a lot of poorly trained relationship counselors around, and a lot of poorly conceived and badly written books on the subject.
So what do you do when you feel your relationship is starting to suffer? Where do you turn? The very first place to turn is to your friends and family members to see if they have had any experience in seeking out good relationship help. At the very worst, they may be able to steer you away from some counselor who didn't work or some books that didn't help. At the best, they may reveal to you that having been in the same position as you find yourself in currently, they found an answer or a therapist that worked for them and may also work for you.
Word of mouth personal referrals are the absolute best way to find someone to help strengthen your relationship. Visit the therapist they recommended and talk with him or her. The initial consultation is usually free and you'll know quickly whether or not this person has anything to say that might help you. Find some information about that couples relationship workshop they attended and see if looks or sounds like something you and your mate might want to try. Read that book, which by now is probably available for free at your local library and try to determine if it opens any windows into your situation. By spending some time where a friend directs you, you may not find the answers you seek but you will have started down a path of trying to heal things that just may lead you to the right destination.
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A Quick Note From The Publisher... If you like the article above, you may be interested in the following article which is also related to Improve Relationships... Relationship Exercises for Couples On a piece of paper, in a notebook or in your journal answer the following series of questions. Do this to learn about yourself and your relationship, but you can also suggest that your partner do the same. You can do this on a yearly basis, say January 1st every year. Exercise Number 1 Do you recall the beginning of your relationship, when you first fell in love? Describe your behavior. Describe your partner's behavior. Too often in a long-term relationship partners stop the very behaviors that connected them with one another in the first place, but transcendent reality. Some common examples are: Do you remember looking deeply into one another's eyes? Do you remember how easy concentrated attention was? Do you remember those compliments and gifts, etc.? What do you do that is the same? What do you no longer do? What has your partner stopped doing? What behaviors would you like to restore to your relationship? Exercise Number 2 What behaviors bother you most about your partner? Are these issues similar to issues from your past? If so, what part do you play in implanting the negative behaviors in your partner? How could you change your behavior to encourage a more positive response? Copyright 2005 Linda Miles Ph.D About the Author Author, Dr. Linda Miles, is deeply committed to helping individuals and couples achieve rewarding relationships. She co-authored an award-winning book, The New Marriage: Transcending the Happily-Ever-After Myth, and CD's, The Train Your Brain series. http://www.drlindamiles.com...