Advice on Relationships

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Author:
Michael Rose

Any relationship between two people changes as a couple's feelings for each other develop over a period of time, and as these feelings change with life's ups and downs. Three factors in each relationship are you, the person you are relating with and the many-sided nature of the relationship. Let's see what methods there are to test the relationship and give us insights into how we might progress.

Type into your Google Search box "relationship quiz" or "relationship test" and answer some of the tests that seem most useful and relevant to you. Get your partner to do the same, and check the answers you each put down. Comparing your answers will allow you both some insights into areas of your relationship where you may have encountered problems in the past.

Completing the tests will probably raise significant questions in your mind. A question for instance may ask if you are satisfied with the attention from your mate: are you still satisfied with your answer or it there more to think about? Discussing the questions and answers with each other will show you where your views and expectations are similar, or may enable you to find out where you are different.

It is important that you carry out this exercise in an atmosphere of goodwill and caring for each other as you will learn much about your relationship and how your partner regards you.

A relationship test enables us to share our preferences, aspects of each other we wouldn't normally be so open about. When we answer these quiz questions we should be able to discuss our feelings more objectively, without sounding critical of each other.

Relationship tests offer an opportunity to strengthen our relationship, and to develop positive feelings and better habits.

Mike Rose

Relationship Magic

Mike Rose is a retired architect, an ex-pat Londoner currently based in New Zealand: he shares his special interest in relationships in a series of articles and forums online.

A Quick Note From The Publisher... If you like the article above, you may be interested in the following article which is also related to Improve Relationships... Relationship Exercises for Couples On a piece of paper, in a notebook or in your journal answer the following series of questions. Do this to learn about yourself and your relationship, but you can also suggest that your partner do the same. You can do this on a yearly basis, say January 1st every year. Exercise Number 1 Do you recall the beginning of your relationship, when you first fell in love? Describe your behavior. Describe your partner's behavior. Too often in a long-term relationship partners stop the very behaviors that connected them with one another in the first place, but transcendent reality. Some common examples are: Do you remember looking deeply into one another's eyes? Do you remember how easy concentrated attention was? Do you remember those compliments and gifts, etc.? What do you do that is the same? What do you no longer do? What has your partner stopped doing? What behaviors would you like to restore to your relationship? Exercise Number 2 What behaviors bother you most about your partner? Are these issues similar to issues from your past? If so, what part do you play in implanting the negative behaviors in your partner? How could you change your behavior to encourage a more positive response? Copyright 2005 Linda Miles Ph.D About the Author Author, Dr. Linda Miles, is deeply committed to helping individuals and couples achieve rewarding relationships. She co-authored an award-winning book, The New Marriage: Transcending the Happily-Ever-After Myth, and CD's, The Train Your Brain series. http://www.drlindamiles.com...